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Sometimes, you don’t realize it’s over —
because it ended so quietly.
Not with a breakdown.
Not with a resignation letter.
Not with a dramatic pivot.
But in those tiny, almost invisible moments:
When you stop caring about the work you used to fight for.
When the praise no longer lands.
When your own voice surprises you in a meeting — not because it was loud, but because it finally sounded true.
That’s how you know you’ve outgrown a version of yourself.
And yet, if you’re like many of the clients I work with —
and like me, if I’m being honest —
you keep trying to squeeze back in.
You know it doesn’t fit. But it’s what’s familiar.
And it worked once.
I’ve done this so many times.
Held onto a role, a rhythm, a reputation — long after it stopped feeling like mine.
Not because I didn’t know better.
But because naming the shift meant letting go of an identity I’d built my life around.
This is the danger:
When you outgrow yourself quietly, without naming it, you start to gaslight your own soul.
You question your disinterest.
You blame yourself for the burnout.
You strategize instead of soften.
And the truth gets buried under productivity and performance.
But outgrowing isn’t a failure.
It’s a sign of life.
It means you’re evolving.
It means your internal landscape is shifting.
It means you’re no longer available for what once defined you.
And the moment you name it — the moment you stop trying to shrink back in —
you create space for the real you to breathe.
So let’s name it:
You’re allowed to want more.
You’re allowed to stop pretending it still fits.
You’re allowed to grow in full view — no apology required.
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